Maybe intimidated isn't the word for what I experience, but I don't quite know what to call it. It's the feeling that maybe I should be doing things someone else's way, even though I know in my heart that that way really doesn't jive with my belief system and who I am as a person and a mom. This feeling must be followed by a stern talking to that I give myself to remind me that I'm doing ok as a mom. That my children aren't complete beasts.
When I took N and G to the library a couple weeks back, there was a table near the check out with books on child discipline and parenting, so I grabbed one that looked interesting, Raising Respectful Children in a Disrespectful World by Jill Rigby. I could tell after a quick glance that it was too religious for my taste, but I figured I could skip those parts. And all the prayer stuff wasn't even what got me thinking that maybe I should do things differently.
It was the tv stuff.
I admit that sometimes I have the tv on just for noise (for me). Just to be able to get some things done; to keep N and G from fighting or keep G from stomping on M's head when I am trying to fix supper. We don't have cable or satellite service, so all my kids get to watch is PBS and things that I've deemed ok on Netflix instant stream. All G or PG shows/movies. If I turn on the news, I only watch for the weather and then I switch it back to educational tv....because there is far too much sad/depressing/anxiety-inducing stuff on the news.
But reading this book and it's reminder to turn the tv off has forced me to think a little more about when and why I turn the tv on for the kids. And for how long.
And that is probably a good thing.
When N was a baby, I was a tv nazi, fearful that her perfect little brain would turn to jello if I allowed the tv on. And then I had a nervous breakdown, perhaps from being inside with my baby with no tv to distract me from the weight of being around a baby all.the.time. So I have lightened up a good deal just for my own effin' sanity.
I don't think any of the kids are gonna be screwed for life for watching too many episodes of Fetch! With Ruff Ruffman or Toy Story 3.
That's my story, and I'm stickin' with it.