Monday, May 23, 2011

The other type of person I am

At bunco the other night, one of my mom friends said something to the effect that she would rather go on a trip with her girlfriends than with her husband.  Every other woman in the room nodded and sighed, "Yeah."  

Now I know I'm the weird one because I want to go on a trip with my family, kids and all.  I want to be with all of them, or I want to be completely alone.  

But I am also not weird in that most of the women I know are not all gaga over their husbands.  Love them--yes.  Friends with them---yes.  But gaga, madly in love, PDA with their husbands---most definitely not.  

Sometimes I get a little freaked out on Facebook when gals talk about their husbands all sweet and romantic-like.  On the one hand, I think it is kinda goofy.  It makes me feel funny in the same way that it does when people talk all lovey about Jesus and how he's their personal saviour.  A little too emotive, maybe?   Whenever I read something like, "I love my man" or "My man is awesome" it makes me throw up just a little in my mouth.  (I told D about this one time and commented how pissed I would be if he ever said something on twitter about "my woman," like I'm some piece of meat.)

But at the same time, I envy them their feeling of lovey-dovey.  I am not this kind of person, and I sometimes wish I were (and probably my husband does too).   I was lovey-dovey back in the days before we lived together when it is easy to adore the person you're with precisely because you are not with them day in and day out for years and years and years.  

I'm not sure what this says about me.  Like Popeye, I yam what I yam.  


Robin said...

PDA as in, holding hands, touching, even kissing is fine for me, but PDA as in going on and on on FB - I'm with you. I feel like if you have to say it, you're forcing it. LOL I feel the same way with people talking about religion and a few other categories. Though I will admit to occasionally being totally guilty, at least in my mind. ;-)

Keri said...

I'm kind of sickened by overly-done spousal fawning as well, but I love it when I hear someone sincerely praise something specific about his or her spouse, especially when the spouse isn't even around to hear it, so you know they're not sucking up.

Like a husband saying, "This lasagna is okay, but after eating my wife's awesome Italian cooking for years, I'm spoiled for anything else." Or a wife saying, "My husband does a great job of fixing things when I ask him to, so I know it will be taken care of really quickly." I know, totally stereotypical comments that I came up with there, but you get the idea. :-) Stuff like that makes me all warm and fuzzy inside, knowing that I'm with someone who has a real appreciation for the person they married and isn't afraid to admit it.

As for taking trips, I'd LOVE to take a trip alone with Dion, but I can only think of a couple of friends who I'd want to be "stuck with" for an extended period of time. I'm all for family vacations too, but Dion and I get so little time alone together that it would seem like bliss to get to spend time away with him without the kids.

Kelsey said...

A lot of that doesn't ring very true with me - I agree that the occasional mention of specific thanks/recognition isn't the same as generic/blanket sentiments.